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Monday, 21 March 2016

Its a blessing and a curse to feel so much so deeply

With all that has happened since 2013, I can say that I'm in much better place emotionally.

No doubt, everyone has their poison of choice when going through depression and the stresses of life and I'm happy to say that I haven't taken up smoking or drinking however, sometimes it does feel like i'm on a spiraling staircase to self destruction because I have no immediate outlet for all the emotions.

But I'm trying to open back up my heart and let down my walls but the slightest resemblance of what led me to this coldest winter and quickly I shut the shutters and lash out once again. I need to be whole again and build back up my confidence and learn how to love myself as I am. I sweat the small stuff too much and its very easy to drift back into that dark period of my life. But I refuse to go back there and so I will eliminate everything that poses a threat. I can only hope for the best for the rest of the year.

I'm trying, really I am.

Tuesday, 22 December 2015

Devoid of emotion

After a while you just kinda feel numb.
Numb to the bullshit
Numb to the pain
Numb to all the shallowness permeating life.

2015 has taught me so much about people, friendships and family. My eyes are wide open and everyone is being selfish.

I'm still a giver and they will always see opportunities in taking from me.
They take my time
They take my heart
They take my joy

They do give though...
and pain

and I'm just tired; tired of it all.
and it's time to go back into my shell and be selfish, so that they cant take anymore of me. 
And I too have to learn to stop being so generous with my time, heart and happiness.

It's time to take back what's mine and that's me.

Thursday, 19 November 2015

A taste of your own medicine

I've changed. And yes, I know it's a bad thing.

You should never change because of how poorly a person treats you, but I've changed because I'm tired.

You see, I used to believe in Love. That, can't eat, can't sleep, I love your smell, I like your taste type of naive teenage love. But my perspective on that oh so grandiose of a feeling has now been dwarfed into something less than butterflies, sunshine and fresh scents. Now, I understand why some guys are assholes and why some don't want anything serious or to fall in love at all. Because you never know who the wolves in sheep's clothing are. This love shit is rigid and if you're not careful, it will consume and depress the fuck out of you and tear you into a million little pieces. It's what drives some of us to that thin line between sanity and insanity. When not returned, it leaves us trembling in fear in a cold dark corner with ideas circulating our minds that going forward we will wreak havoc and hurt everyone we lay hands on. Oh the revenge!

But as for me, while I'm not 100% gone to haterville, I prefer to stay to myself, by myself and not wreak havoc on people's lives just because I've been hurt. I just hope nobody falls in love with me and expects me to love them back before 2020.

New Guy

My friend asked if I wasn't going to ask him about the pic he sent of his lunch with a reflection of a female in the background at the table with him. I simply replied, no. Yes, I am a detective of some sorts. I'm a sucker for detail and when I first showed her pic she found nothing wrong with. Not Tami. Even if it's a single hair-strand, a hairpin or grease on your hair brush I'll notice without consciously looking for it. But, this time, I let that shit go. I let asking the question of who is that with you at lunch slide because we are not confirmed. Everyone is just temporary, right? And, I guess, it's just my turn with him. 

Are these guys oblivious to how obvious their social media actions are? If you keep liking a particular persons pic, eventually it will show up in our feed and we will wonder, who keeps liking this girls pic? And then when out of curiosity we click on one of her daily pics, then pow!! It hits us like Miley on a wrecking ball and we realize that you are flirting and how your innocence has now been deflated and then we fall back.

I'm just not into the stressing over people that don't consider that their actions are hurtful to others. You do you and I'll do me. When you are ready to have respect for me, hopefully I'll still be available. So, If he sees me out having drinks with someone else I'm sure I'll be labelled as a ho or something and then his amnesia will kick in, forgetting that he was openly flirting with a thirsty instagram model. The double standard.

These hoes aint loyal

Now a days relationships are reduced to guys not committing but expects the girl to act like she's in a relationship. It becomes an issue if she wishes to express her feelings which will be voided by comments like 'hey, remember we are not together'. But then the guy will throw a hissy fit if she seems too chummy with a male friend and how dare she post a pic with him on social media if he's not gay. All I know is that I'm no longer sitting around, waiting for these motherfuckers to come around  while I wait in patience and keep my legs closed while they are slinging dicks all over the place. I'm not going to sleep around but I'm also not going to put up with blatant disrespect. I know my worth and fuck that, I don't need validation from you to know that I'm a good enough person. Good enough for a guy who deserves a girl like me.

Is it so much to ask for a guy who is completely honest, tall, ambitious and offers great sex? Is that really too fucking much to ask for? But wait, those guys may be asking for a model type looking girl who posts sexy pics all day and have a trust fund. 

A girl can dream can't she?